Are we entering a feminist down phase?

Posted by Guest Blogger on Friday, 10 February 2006 12:48.

Some years ago I was browsing through a pile of American magazines from the late 1940s in a second hand bookshop. The most interesting article I found was written by a female columnist (the magazine was from around 1946 or 1947). She argued that women had had enough of the hardships brought about by feminism (loneliness, childlessness etc) and that it would be a relief to return to more traditional values.

Which is what women did in the 1950s, thereby ending the first great wave of feminism which had begun (roughly speaking) in the 1860s (there had been individual feminists before then, but it seems to have been in the 1860s that feminism was first taken up as government policy in Great Britain).

I wonder if we are now poised on the brink of another feminist down phase. There seems to be a similar weariness amongst women - an unwillingness to continue shouldering the burden of overwork and poor family outcomes which are associated with modern feminism.

This wearing down of feminism from within is especially marked in a recent article in the Daily Mail by Amanda Platell (The Silent Conspiracy, 28th January 2006). The entire article is worth reading as evidence of a change in attitude, but let me cite some of the most revealing passages.

Here is Amanda Platell explaining that despite her glamorous career and lifestyle she wishes to question the feminist legacy:

“Fortunate as I am to have lived the life I have done, my marriage ended in failure and I was never able to have the children I longed for (though in my case that owed more to biology than circumstance). Look around you and there are plenty of others like me; the women who inherited a new world order - and who now bear the emotional scars to prove it.

It’s only now, as we start to look back, that we can see just how much we’ve scorched the social landscape around us. In our rush to embrace the new, we have systematically rejected much that, for centuries past, had brought women stability and happiness. Is it any wonder that the younger generation aren’t sure what to think, and instead allow the thrill of youthful hedonism to drown out the conflicting signals around them.

On the one hand they are told they must strive to have it all; and on the other, they can see around them the evidence that this will never truly be possible. Or at least not without great cost to their physical and emotional well-being.

Far too often, it seems to me, the unwitting price of female emancipation has been heartache, stress and a life spent chasing false promises. But if we women are ever to feel truly happy with our lot, I believe we have to stop whingeing, stop blaming men and society, stop playing the victim and stand up and ask the unthinkable; are we ruining for ourselves? Could it be that the freedom we now enjoy is part of the problem?”

Another revealing part of the article begins when Amanda Platell seeks a comment from author Fay Weldon, once a feminist icon:

“Women like you should be cursing women of my generation”, she told me. “All we did was make you go out to work and earn money and have children and completely exhaust yourselves. I’m sorry”. She called women like me ‘the lost generation’ - the ones who had inherited a barren landscape after the revolution had marched through.

“If you want to be like a man, then feminism hasn’t gone far enough”, she said, “if you want to be like a woman, it has gone too far.

And there, straight away, was the kernel of the matter: feminism was supposed to about equality, not sameness. We wanted to better our sex, not obliterate it. But that is what has happened. In striving to be the same as men, the only things we were guaranteed were the exhaustion and stress and guilt that came with the effort of labouring to become something we never were and never could be.

And striving to be like a man had other consequences. For a start, men don’t like it - at least, not the kind of men you’d want to spend your life with. This has led to another unsayable truth. Women today take their 20’s out for themselves, to pursue career and relationships - but not permanent ones - to experiment, to have fun. It’s the ‘me’ decade of their life. I have no problem with that, but it does lead to a kind of independence that can make it hard for women to ever settle down with another person and willingly accept all the emotional and financial compromises that entails.

This, in turn, has led to another unintended consequence - this time biological. The principled and often pathological belief that men and women have to be treated the same has led women to believe they can have kids whenever they want and with whomever they want - or even by themselves if they choose. The principle legacy of that belief is not more contented mothers, but more women putting money in the pockets of a booming fertility industry as they discover the hard way that nature doesn’t perform to order and pays no regard to social idealism.”

Then there is the following extraordinary admission which Amanda Platell obtains from Tessa Jowell, the Minister for Women:

“I felt sure the Minister for Women, Tessa Jowell, would have some right-on feminist response, so I tracked her down at the start of a countrywide tour where she was listening to women’s concerns. I expected a sop: what I got was a shock.

Tessa said straight out that her daughter would not tolerate the stress of the impossible juggling act that women of her generation performed. Moreover, she admitted no amount of government policy would ever bring about the perfect work/life balance that might help make women happier. Part of the problem, she admitted, was that the anticipated participation of men in the home and parenting stakes has simply not materialised, and certainly not to the degree expected.

Women, even when they work full-time, are still the primary carers of children and elderly relatives, still do most of the housework, cooking and shopping. Only a fraction of men have taken up paternity leave.

Perhaps, as Tessa suggested to me, such characteristics are part of women’s DNA - and no amount of legislation can change this fundamental difference between the sexes.”

(This last statement of Tessa Jowell is the most significant. It represents a truly heretical thought within the church of liberalism: that perhaps we can’t choose to be anything we will ourselves to be, because science has proven the reality of gender difference. Gender, in other words, can’t be made not to matter, because our distinctive masculinity and femininity is hardwired into us.)

Time will tell whether Amanda Platell is representative of the spirit of the age, and that we really are to get some relief from feminism.

I’m not suggesting that institutional feminism will go away. Even in the 1950s there were UN women’s officers jetting around the globe to various conferences and no doubt this will continue.

But perhaps at ground level some more space will open up for romance, marriage and motherhood.

Tags: Feminism



Comments:


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Posted by Amalek on Fri, 10 Feb 2006 15:30 | #

One favourite myth peddled by feminists is that the women who assisted the war effort were driven back into the home by men returning from the forces.

However, more recent research has found that most of those women, while not regretting that they did their bit, were very glad to be back full time with their children: in an environment they controlled rather more than that of the lathe and the typewriter with its male bosses and foremen.

Of course in those day’s one breadwinner sufficed to bring up two or three children in reasonable comfort. Later, under the tutelage of ugly lesbians, women discovered that they needed to put off childbearing until 10-20 years past the optimum biological moment, and that it was ‘stifling’ them to be a housewife and mother when they could be performing routine tasks in factory or office. Besides, they just had to possess all those lovely shiny things they saw on the TV, even if the old man couldn’t buy them without getting into debt. They had to own their homes at the price of near-eternal indebtedness, like Bangladeshi peasants but unlike most younger Swiss or German mothers. And they could not think of any way of meeting and exchanging notes with other women that did not entail dumping their kids with strangers when they could barely walk.

Ms Platell’s lament for what she and her sisters were taught to devalue and discard is all very well, but unless women (and their ‘partners’) can be persuaded that a simpler, poorer life can be more satisfying than the one exalted by gossip magazine and TV commercial, there won’t be much of a reversion to hearth and home.

The “Having It All” fantasy is only the feminist variant of the cult of the Glorious Individual In All of Us: that genius which cannot be held down in the name of such fuddy-duddy concepts as faith, race or nation. For about 200 years we have been told ad nauseam that selfhood is the highest good and ‘self-expression’ the most solemn obligation. For me, self-expression is what people do in lavatories, and few have much else to express.


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Posted by Mark Richardson on Fri, 10 Feb 2006 22:19 | #

Nice comment Amalek. The only thing I’d add to it is that the financial benefit to couples of women working is undermined by a number of factors.

First, it must have contributed to rising house prices in Western countries, as it has permitted couples to service larger mortgages.

Second, a considerable portion of the female wage is taken by spending on childcare, nannies, home help and so on.

Third, women working has arguably lowered male wages by increasing labour supply, demotivating men and restricting career opportunities.


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Posted by Lauren Smith on Sun, 12 Feb 2006 06:36 | #

I as a young woman would prefer the days of old. Feminism has ruined what was once a beautiful country. Children used to come home to mom making cookies, or cooking, or doing what women should be doing, being a mother.
Now that women have claimed the jobs of men, we have our children coming home to nannys.

What a great childhood! And we wonder why the teenage pregnancy rate is outrageous, mommy is too busy out playing Neo-con!


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Posted by Mark Richardson on Sun, 12 Feb 2006 09:56 | #

Lauren, thanks for the comment. I know that I appreciated my mother being home when I was young. It’s one reason I couldn’t understand the feminists of the 1980s and 90s arguing for female careerism. I used to think to myself: don’t they want their own children to have the benefits that they themselves enjoyed? Have they forgotten what it was like to be a child?


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Posted by Amalek on Sun, 12 Feb 2006 11:32 | #

Here’s a glimpse of the old age of a militant feminist. Seventy-two this year:

http://www.katemillett.com/pages/1/index.htm

and here’s another, from the mare’s mouth:

http://archives.econ.utah.edu/archives/m-fem/1998m07/msg00000.htm

“Child-free” sisters are not much cop at supporting each other in the twilight of their lives.


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Posted by Mark Richardson on Sun, 12 Feb 2006 12:10 | #

Most interesting read, Amalek. And to think that Millett brought such misery on herself for such a destructive cause.


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Posted by martin on Mon, 13 Feb 2006 22:32 | #

“One favourite myth peddled by feminists is that the women who assisted the war effort were driven back into the home by men returning from the forces. “

Who cares if women were thrown out of work. The men had been risking their lives, many were killed or permanently disabled, to defend the citizens of their country, and women are citizens too! The men were entitled to preferential treatment when they came back.



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