There are a variety of ways in which interpersonal relations map onto interethnic relations.  Indeed, the ethnic becomes personal most often through interpersonal relations even if they are abstracted to the level of some television producer making a series of degrading images to project into your home, hence into your eyes.  So, with that in mind, I’d like you to read over Wikipedia’s “checklist” of indicators of when you are being subjected to “emotional abuse” and see if they match your experience, as a white, of your relationship to one or more other ethnicities:

Checklist
The following lists indicators that you can use to gauge whether you are being subjected to emotional abuse (adapted from [1]):

• You understand their feelings, but they never attempt to understand yours
• They dismiss your difficulties or issues as unimportant or an overreaction
• Your feelings are consistently invalidated
• They do not listen to you
• They put their needs before yours
• They expect you to perform tasks that you find unpleasant or humiliating
• You “walk on eggshells” in an effort not to upset them
• They ignore logic and prefer histrionics in order to remain the center of attention
• They manipulate you into feeling guilty for things that have nothing to do with you
• They attempt to destroy any outside support you receive by belittling that support in an effort to retain exclusive control over your emotions
• They do not take responsibility for hurting others
• They blame other people and circumstances for any unfortunate events in their lives
• They perceive themselves as martyrs or victims and constantly expect preferential treatment
• Maltreatment occurs especially when they are unhappy with your behavior
• They love you and treat you like a prince(ss) when they are happy with your behavior
• They aren’t happy with your behavior very often
• They compare you negatively to others
• They seem to treat other people kindly, and you’re the only one that seems to be yelled at by them’